I’m not a firm believer in new year’s resolutions, mostly due to my forgetful tendencies. Never mind the fact that I consider waiting for the next new year to do something tremendous is taking the lazy approach to never start whatever’s needed. I rather side towards choosing to do things that can better myself, and from the starting days in my recovery it’s built a strong habit, which has glued its place in my mind.

I was using TikTok to the end of the year to try work out what I would do, and Mel Robins popped into my feed with a few suggestions. She promoted her book, The Let Them Theory, which made me consider my reading habits again. Sure, I can pick it up eventually, I’ll read it sometime soon, that’s where my mind sat with the idea. I wasn’t sure where I was going, in my mind, with my super chilled end of year plan.

Here’s a simple rule.

Never, ever, ever, let your mood dictate what you do. You have to take action first, because movement changes your mood.

If you want to be an author, write, and when you’re done writing, your mood will be amazing.

If you want to be a YouTuber, make YouTube videos, and your mood afterwards will be amazing.

If you want to be healthier, exercise, and your mood after you move will feel incredible.

Do not let the mood you’re in now dictate what you do next. Act like the person you want to become. And when you start taking those actions, and you start moving in the direction of your dreams, and the things that you want and deserve in your life, your mood will follow.

It’ll feel great, and you my friend, will be getting it done.

Mel Robbins

I’d already been trying to get the idea of Let Them into my mind on a regular basis, from the other video’s she shared. Just to try it out. It was near the end of December when I heard this one, close to my holiday midpoint, and it clicked the right button in my mind. When it hit me, I began remapping my thought process and creating a better plan for myself. I had two rough lifestyle choices I wanted to make, which I was regretting from 2023s fiasco that led me to the bad tendencies I wanted to fix for myself.

It convinced me to start again. Not to overwhelm myself with the many things I can do all at once, but to choose a starting point, and never let my mood dictate what I want to do. I listening to The Let Them Theory and got through it the first time in haste. I wanted to start my blog again, and felt I could share it, but something urged me to first read it again. Work then started again, repeated it, and it was a fabulous decision. Today I’m sharing it just after the 3rd reading, and I feel I still need to repeat it a lot to myself.

The start of Chapter 9 fit me the best.

The truth is: Life isn’t fair. But at some point, you’ve got to wake up, accept that fact, and stop obsessing over what other people have, what they look like, and what they’ve achieved.

The Let Them Theory – Chapter 9

We can just Let Them!

It sunk in properly, as I read it the first time, after the many videos sharing the idea. It helped steer into the better direction.

Instead of looking at others and sticking to self-pity because I’m not “up there” (in the supposed cool zone), I needed a step-by-step action plan. It helped me settle into the 2-hour rule, properly, which made my ideas turn into achievable goals. The two rough choices became easier and already started to show great results when starting the journey.

The rule was inspired by The Let Them Theory when it shared the idea of starting to use Let Me. When you Let Them do something you don’t like, you can answer with Let Me. The action doesn’t have to be a negative one, like treating them in any bad manner, but a simpler thought.

They do something you don’t like, you Let Them and then share you dislike it and won’t be able to stay if it continues. You can then continue, for yourself, with Let Me not let it slide if they ignore it. This isn’t to just try force them to do anything or completely change, rather, if they continue to hurt you, I’m afraid to say they’re not the right person for you. It can then change into Let Me distance myself for safety and comfort.

Try not fight, it doesn’t have to be an argument. They can still do whatever they want, as can you. It’s just to start to shimmy away from our nature, all around the world as people, which tends to fight and be aggressive. You let them; they fought back? Stick to Let Them, and your Let Me can be distance to keep yourself safe.

I have to share, this is an amazing change in mindset, it makes everything feel calmer and more organised. Literally learning to say Let Them… I’m even no longer as frustrated in traffic with the people around me driving like they’re aiming at colliding with one another, these days. It isn’t what I would have expected it to help me with. It’s wonderful how it’s helping me stay calm now.

I recommend a ton of people need to read it and try it out for themselves. It will help with so much in our world today. Let Them!